To Grow a Heart

Ezekiel 11:19 I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh.

God is growing me back into my heart. He started by reintroducing me to joy. On Sunday, I escaped my rising sun-setting dread by accepting my friend's invitation to sleep over at her house. Like a Thomas Kincade painting, her house was bright and inviting inside when I arrived in the dark, and her two children in whom I delight came running to the door to see me the moment I stepped inside. They love me because I hold them by their ankles and swing them in the air, or fireman-carry them upstairs to bed, frequently (but accidentally) bumping them into walls and furniture on the way. It's amazing how this mild act of violence elicits such powerful mutual affection and joy. On Wednesday, I went out with my "French" friends, Jen and Stuart, to a Chinese restaurant where we shared some excellent Mandarin chicken. I (sort of) taught Jen how to use chop-sticks. Then we walked across the street to the Pages bookstore in Kensington for the poetry reading and celebration of Writing the Land's publication. Writing the Land is a collection of poems written by Albertan poets and collected by a brand new Albertan publishing company, called House of Blue Skies, about the land of Alberta and authors' connections to it. Jen's favourite poem by Stuart, Weaselhead Variations, which he read to her on their first date as they walked through Weaselhead Park (AWWWWW), is in the book, so he was invited to come read it aloud at the book launch. He did so proudly. Afterwards, Jen and I congregated to chat with a few other non-writers while Stuart, a social butterfly at heart, wandered around talking to the many people he knows at poetry readings. When most of the room had cleared out, Stuart returned and informed Jen that he and his friend Rob were going out to a pub for some male bonding time, so he'd walk her to her car and kiss her good-night. Then, as he wrapped his arm around her to steer her out, he turned to a woman we'd been chatting with and asked, "Want to come along?" While I silently started laughing my head off behind him, Jen and the other woman simultaneously dropped their jaws in shock, then verbally jumped him like the Papparrazi jumped on Princess Di with their cameras. I was still laughing when I left Jen and Stuart making out...I mean up...on a street corner to catch my train home. At the train station, I sat down in the shelter to begin recording this story in my journal, when a young man sitting across from me interrupted with, "Excuse me, sorry to bother you, but..." which is usually followed with either, "do you know which train I'd need to get to ____?" or "do you know what time it is?" I lifted my head from my writing to acknowledge him and was somewhat surprised when his question was "is it always like this?" I glanced around to try and get some clue as to what he was talking about. I didn't see anything unusual or alarming: a homeless man with a shopping cart walked resolutely down the sidewalk, a few teen-agers huddled together smoking cigarettes against the side of the graffitied convenience store, and the sound of sirens floated from somewhere in the distance. We were on the 8th Street down-town train platform at about 10:00 pm. "You mean like with the shopping carts and stuff?" I asked, examining him more carefully this time. He nodded. Outsider. "Um, yeah," I said, "We call this corner 'Crack Macs'." "Are you serious?!" he asked, paling. Definitely an outsider. Yet, I was surprised by his concern. Deep circles under his eyes indicated pro-longed sleep-deprivation; slightly dirty-looking loose jeans, faux-fur lined skater hoodie, and a faded black baseball cap with a silver spider web embroidered on the front suggested he was some sort of tradesman or construction worker. He blended right in. Curious now, I asked, "Where are you from?" So he told me his story. He'd recently moved to Red Deer from Ontario. He'd come to Calgary this week to do some sight-seeing of sorts. In his own words, "Worst two days of my life." Apparently, his very first day here he was beaten up and robbed of his wallet, which of course contained all his money, ID, credit cards, etc. He reported the crime to city police, but they weren't able to help him. Trying to remember what I'd suggest if I were at the DC, I asked if he'd tried calling Victim's Assistance. "Well," he said, "the police gave me this piece of paper with all these numbers on it. I don't know what they're all for. Man, I was so mad! They gave me the number for a homeless shelter. I went there and there were people sleeping all over the floor. I asked them if they could help me get bus money to go home, because the bus station said they'd sell me a ticket back to Red Deer for $18.50, but they were like, 'We don't do that here, but you can sleep on the floor if you like.' So I was like, 'F*** this, I'm leaving.' And I've been asking people for change for 12 hours, but all I've got is $2.60 so far." Wincing in sympathy, I acknowledged that Calgarians have become pretty closed-fisted since the city population exploded and housing costs shot up, leaving a lot of people homeless and the rest de-sensitized to their pain. "That's cold, man," he shook his head. A plan beginning to form in my head, I inquired when his bus was supposed to leave. "11:30. But there's no way I'll be able to get the money by then," he said glumly, "An' I feel so stupid asking people for change. I'm not a bum. I have a home. I have money. I just can't get to it." I stared off into space, thinking. He cocked his head to the side and waved, "Hello-o." I shook my head, "Sorry. I was just thinking. You said the ticket costs $18?" When he nodded, I told him, "Wait here." Then I swung my bag over my shoulder and walked off. Since he didn't follow me, I walked the few blocks to my bank, listening to see if God would warn me off. Not at all. I withdrew $20 from my account and put it in my pocket. I generally don't carry much cash on me because it's not all that safe of a practice in Calgary...he's definitely an outsider. I walked back to the station and almost didn't see him, but he called to me from below where he was having a cigarette. Discretely pulling the bill from my pocket and handing it to him (it's a good thing no cops were around or it really would have looked like a drug deal), I told him to go home. His face visibly brightening, he said, "Hey, thanks! You have a good heart." Uncomfortable with praise, I shrugged, "Nobody wants to get stranded." Switching topics, I reminded him to make sure he had all his ID and credit cards, etc. canceled ASAP. Grinning, he told me he'd already gotten that done, then waved farewell and started to walk towards the bus depot. "God bless," I called out the abbreviated farewell blessing as an afterthought, and sat back down in the train shelter. A moment later, a knock on the shelter glass interrupted my journal writing a second time. I looked up and found the stranded Red Deerian staring back at me. I got up and went back out to the railing to see what he wanted. "Are you a Christian?" he asked without preamble. "Yes." I waited. "So am I," he said, then stared at his feet, "Well, I used to be, anyway." So then he told me more of his story- what had brought him to Alberta in the first place. He used to be a youth pastor in a very large and televised church in Ontario. "But I was a do-er, not a be-er," he admitted. Like so many church leaders set on a pedestal, he burned out fast and, as he put it, "I decided 'Screw it' and headed west." He was currently working his way back toward God. We talked about church structure leadership demands, about God's forgiveness and grace. As my train approached, he told me his name. "I'm David," he said, holding out his hand. "Faye," I responded, shaking his hand. It was cold. Then, waving farewell, I got on my train, and he walked away toward the bus depot. I wished I'd stayed a little longer to hear more of his story. I trust God got him to the bus depot safely. God spoke to both of us through our chance encounter. And I think the message was essentially the same; to David- "Come home. I'm still watching over you. I love you." To me- "Your heart is good. I'm still with you. I love you." I can love.

Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Sunday I drove to Dalhousie to visit my friend Dave at his new church, Harvest Christian Fellowship. Out of boredom or annoyance I've been skipping or ignoring sermons at my own church for months now. I was therefore not prepared when their worship service was interrupted by various church members who freely came to the front and read portions of scripture, devotionals, or sang on-the-spot prophesies and prayers over the group as they felt called by the Spirit. They spoke Ezekiel 11:19 over us, saying that some of us felt dry, dead, and unable to receive God's love, but God would give us new life again if we would prophecy over the deadness. I wouldn't do it, though I wanted to. A tension of opposites. I felt a sudden urge to escape or become invisible. Then they hang out chatting and drink coffee for a while. I escaped to the washroom while Dave went out for a smoke. Wow, it's like High School all over again. I've totally regressed to my previous level of social awkwardness. Rather than trying to talk to someone I didn't know, I sat back down and journaled until the sermon began. It was short- just a blessed 30 minutes- but impactful. The pastor preached on the story of Joseph, son of Israel. Point after point, I felt skewered. He spoke of how we are called to hear the word and to do. To take in and store, then to give to others what we've been given. He talked about how it appears that God in his mercy helped Joseph forget his dream for a time. When he was appointed second in command to pharaoh, he went immediately to work, trusting the authority given him by God and Pharaoh would be accepted wherever he went in Egypt. He forgot his father's house, married the daughter of a priest of Ra, had two sons. He was able to step back and focus on the tasks before him, let his past go, so that when his brothers arrived he was in the right place, the right heart, to live out his dream the way God planned it. I've never really heard Joseph's story like that. And it killed me. Which is good. You see, I've been feeling very stuck in many places in my life right now. Unable to find the motivation to get my school work done, stuck in oscillating states of apathy or depression, unable to stick it out with the young adults at my church after their new pastor quit and they reverted back to their safe weekly bible studies that make me want to scream. I know God told me to be there, told me I needed to teach them some new things, and I have felt no release to give up and go somewhere else. But since I joined the young adults group last winter, I have been completely unsuccessful in fitting in, making myself join them regularly, getting to know them as individuals, or allowing them to know me. I can't lead them, God. They don't trust me (understandably so). Why would they listen to me? They won't, God replied, but they will listen to me.

Philippians 4:13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

So here I am not. Because it's not I who lives, but Christ lives in me. And although I probably do not have the courage to face that whole group and ask their forgiveness for judging them and avoiding them, or to ask the leaders if they'd let me get involved in helping them in whatever God is leading them in, Christ has courage to spare. And although I don't deserve to be accepted to their group after the way I've behaved toward them, they love Christ and welcome him in their midst. And although I still don't know how to balance work, school, family, friends, and church demands, Christ has got rhythm and moves that would put Elvis Presley to shame. "I love you. I love you, do you hear me? Now GET UP!" Trinity commanded Neo, lying shot and bloody on the floor. Neo's eyes opened and he rose to his feet to crush his enemies and return to his heart, his home (Matrix, 1999, Warner Brothers Pictures).

I can love, and I can work.